Hi Lily! Thanks for taking time to join me here at Books. Lists. Life!
First, I love the cover of the book. Was it what you pictured
while you were writing it? Did you ever imagine you'd be on the front
cover?
I really never wanted to be on a book cover. We went through, I'm not kidding, about 75 different designs, none of which we could agree on--the sales people get the most heavily weighted vote. Because we were runnign out of time, the marketing people just slapped together a fake cover for the catalog using my old author photo, and wouldnt' you know, that's the one the sales folks liked! I said I didn't want that one used--it was too corny and earnest. I mean, I'm not Suzanne Sommers or whatever, so me grinning out of the cover seemed silly and inapppopriate. But I said I'd be okay with being on the cover if it was cheeky and kind of retro--a little play on the old-school Stepford Army wife stereotype.I had my old punk rock friend Laura photograph it (she designed the dress, too) and we had a ton of fun doing it. Even the 2 hours of hair and makeup beforehand was a blast. The cover, once it was totally designed came out with just the right mix of retro-cool with a hint of irony, which works for me. So, moral of the story is: Never say never.
I recently read that the bookstore at West Point did not allow you
to have a signing. Were you surprised? Did you think that might happen? In the book you mention several other Army wives who were supportive of you, what has their reaction been?
I was very surprised! But one thing that happened immediately after the cancellation is a number of cadets, wives, and academics kicked up a fuss. Bear in mind that West Point is incredibly networked--alumni, cadet parents, and faculty all have their own social networks and any big news, like this, spreads immediately. One department head at West Point invited me in to speak to the faculty at a luncheon; my old next door neighbor now retired from the Army, emailed me with support from the middle of Kansas. And my West Point Wife homegirls came all the way down to NYC for my book party to show their solidarity, so oddly, the cancelation really created an opportunity to me to see how much people cared! So now I love the West Point community more than ever.
My grandfather was an officer in the Air Force and a pilot in WWII. By the time I was born he was long retired and it really didn't mean anything to me. When he died he was buried with full honors, including a 21 gun salute. I didn't expect it to be a big deal but it totally was and was one of the few moments I got truly emotional. When I read of your husband's respect of your father at his funeral it brought that memory back in full force. Were you expecting it to be so emotional?
I don't think it's easy to convey how moving military honors can be. Seeing someone's service memorialized with such precise rituals and respect is almost too much to bear. I mean, you're totally pulled apart and made a mess of by grief--makeup running everywhere, you cant find your car keys, your nose runs all the time and snot bubbles down your face. But a soldier, when rendering honors, keeps it all together. Out of love, out of duty. It is one of the most beautiful things I've ever witnessed, and no matter how well I knew--or didn't know--the deceased, I am never able to see such grandeur without shedding a few tears.
In the book you address some issues that I always associated with
teenagers and college students- eating disorders and cutting. Recently there have been a few Young Adult fiction books that also address these things (For example, Wintergirls by Laurie Halse Anderson and Cut by Patricia McCormick.) Do you think that issues like this are becoming more mainstream because of the attention paid to them?
Yes, and I think that lots of young women really enjoy reading about them. It shows them they are not alone in their extremity of feeling, that it's reasonably common to feel so overwhelmed that you act in self-destructive ways as a means of trying to cope. It's not about being perfect after you find the perfect therapist or showing some seamless happy ending--it's the journey, of showing all the pain of life in its true form, and the ways that you try to overcome it, however successfully (or not) you can manage. This type of writing has been around since Sylvia Plath's The Bell Jar, and maybe even before that. It will always have its place, because being a girl in this world is treacherous business, and sometimes reading about The Crazy makes you feel, paradoxically, less crazy!
Tell me more about Operation Bombshell? Have you had good turnouts for it?
Operation Bombshell is my pet project--I teach burlesque dance to women whose husbands are deployed. Just something to give the women a bit of a lift because deployment can be so lonely and stressful, whether you're home alone or taking care of your kids alone while your husband is gone. I gather small groups of women together and we just camp it up for an hour. I keep the classes small because it's more fun that way. Honestly, if I were able to meet the demand for classes, I'd probably be on different military installation every week!
Your last book (Try) was a fiction novel set in the
rodeo west, which happens to be where I live. I read and loved it just as I was starting this blog, and failed to write a review of it. Do you think that you'll write any more fiction so that I'll get another chance? What's
next?
Next is turning Try into a screenplay and I! Can't! Wait! Seriously. Once I'm done with this fun q&a, I am getting started. Yeahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!
What question do people never ask you that you wish they
would? What's the answer?
Fatty and salty, or fatty and sweet? Answer: Fatty and salty. Keep your ice
cream and chocolates. Pizza and fries and corndogs 4 ever!
And last- what five things (not people or animals!) could you not
live without?
Beat up old MacBook
Double-sided tape
SPF 45 sunscreen
iTunes/iPod
Target fitted ribbed tank tops
