First, this last year, the last six months, has really taught me two things: that I need to ask for help when I need it, and that I need more friends. Don't get me wrong, the friends I have are awesome and I could never, ever had made it this far without them (Shawna, Brianna, Anna, I'm looking at you. Also, the ones inside my computer who were so encouraging and supportive) but it was a really tough year. I was pregnant and then had a baby and Mike was so so busy with work and not by choice. Then he moved and I really struggled to do it all alone, and then we moved, finally. I had to force myself to ask for help, which was so very hard for me, because I felt like there were so few places to ask and I didn't want to overwhelm my friends too, you know? So the first half of my resolution is to put myself out there and make friends, so that I have more resources when I need them again. I want a list of more than one when I need a babysitter or a hour of adult conversation.
We're (the babies and I) going to go to library story time and I'm gonna force myself on the other moms. I'm already asking around for toddler groups (haven't found any, but have been asking.) I'm chatting up the other moms and grandmothers at McDonalds (or was when we went every day before we had internets at home.) If the weather would allow we'd be outside stalking the neighbors. I'm determined to make my social circle wider in my new home. I'm not going to be the quiet one in the corner. For the sake of my sanity and my kid's, I'm going to do this.
The second part, which is related, is that I'm always going to offer to help. If you're sick or hurt or your husband is gone, I will offer to bring dinner or watch your kids or hold your baby or take out your garbage. I will call to see if you need something from the store. I am not waiting for you to ask me because you might be on the edge of a breakdown before that happens. In the past I would mindlessly wait for you to ask me for help, but now I won't. Of course this depends on the first part happening, but since it will, it follows that the second part will as well.
You can hold me to this, I promise you.
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